I was coming home on the subway (underground train system in Toronto), reading a book. It’s around a half hour train ride from downtown to my station, so I “feel” it’s time to start wrapping up. Looked up outside the window, the colors and ambience seems off…it was different.
“Arriving at Islington station,” I hear from the loudspeakers.
Realization. I got on the opposite train and arrived at the “West End”. Add 1-hour to the train ride because I was going the wrong direction for 30minutes.
Crap! was my initial reaction, but then it turned into a smile, then a light chuckle as I looked back at the paperback book in my hand; Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihaly
Obviously, I had to now run out and get over to the other train…
Flow: ThePsychology of Optimal Experience
Flow is about that feeling you get when you’re totally “into” something, and you have almost no sense of your surroundings. Like a NASCAR racer going 200MPH is hyper-focus because one mistake can smash his car, having one of those “super- salahs” (probably during Ramadan) where you’re listening for the meaning of verses, etc. or even when you’re researching online and keep at it for hours without notice.
We’ve all experienced it, but mostly out of fluke rather than consciously putting all our focus in and keeping distractions out.
Dr. Csikszentmihaly (pronounce that name) says, “the mark of a person who is in control of consciousness is the ability to focus attention at will, to be oblivious to distractions, to concentrate as long as it takes to achieve a goal, and not longer. And that person who can do this usually enjoys the normal course of everyday life”
“The ability to focus attention at will” – that’s talking about a skill you can develop, not random moments of inspiration.
Few other factors that come into play, in a nutshell, are: Challenge and Practice. There has to be some challenge in completing the task, it’s not happening while you wash 3 dishes. For the salah example, it’s way different if you’re just going through the motions for Isha by yourself than praying at the masjid and the imam starts reciting a surah you’re currently trying to memorize. As for practice, “It is not enough to know how to do it; one must do it”.
Why it Amused Me
It was very interesting to me that I entered the flow state while reading the book Flow. See there’s a lot of noise and movement on the subway, but I’ve been waiting to finally read this book and tuned it out. I was also practicing to increase my reading speed, trying to break the 400wpm (words per minute) block.
On top of that, the announcements went out for all 14 stops (twice for each one actually), I didn’t realize anything until it felt like my stop (Warden Station, opposite end that train).
In any case, the extra hour did help me finish like a quarter of the book.
I recently visited my notes on the book and put some of it to use.
Mainly, picking out a task that needs focus for at least an hour straight and is interesting enough that clock-checking isn’t needed. It resulted in finally editing and restarting on making videos. (Of course, also writing a blog post after a year…)
Overview: 3 Investments are: Time, Patience, and Life into Life
Invest with Time
It’s paradoxical; you’ll need to put in time (loss) so you can increase the value of time in your future (gain).
Walking - progress is linear (it’s in small bits and doesn’t get bigger or anything)
Catapult – Like flying there in 3 days vs walking for 3 months)
The hard part with a catapult is the set up.
For walking, it is easier and within the comfort zone…that’s why it’s the easier choice as well.
BUT here’s the thing, struggles and hardships will ALWAYS exist…when aren’t they there? You can either work hard once and reap the rewards than work hard throughout and reap (lesser and more delayed) rewards
Here’s what I did recently; it was during assignment times and I still took 2 hrs out to attend an interview. My justification was that it’ll give me a boost and increase motivation to finish the assignments so then I can move on to other stuff…and alhamdulillah it was the smarter decision
Part of my personal game-plan is to continuously feed my mind to keep it ripe n fresh – that’s something any student, professional, home-maker can adapt.
This could mean a bunch of things for you :
If you’re tired all the time then maybe you’re not tired, you’re just BORED
Sometimes when the progress in life is next to nothing, read a new book, research something you’re interested in, enroll in a class, spend quality time with important people, help somebody else etc.
Start hitting the gym or pick up an old sport you used to love to keep physical shape
One way or another, create that zest for life and a love for living - not like an attachment to dunya love, rather excellence towards the akhira.
Invest with Patience
Y’know that interview I mentioned, it was of Lisa Gabriele (Canadian author and executive producer of the show “Dragon’s Den”) held at University of Toronto. One of the points about writing stood out to me, “most aren’t willing to just sit and wait…and then start.”
Sometimes all it takes is a bit of patience and you’ll get yourself through the project, exam, bumps in a relationship, writing an article on time management
Be patient with yourself, and be confident in the fruits of that patience Continue reading →