Great to hear from you bhaiya, jazakallahukhair for your comment.
Ameen to the du’a.

@Abd-Allah @filsan – wa jazakum

@filsan – wa alaikum assalaam. Surah Yusuf truly is amazing, and the words of Allah are true (Surah Yusuf = best of stories)

Answer: Allahu ‘alam – Allah knows best.

Here’s a quote I like: “Forgiveness is its own virtue”
Like I mentioned above @Abd-Allah – do it for selfish reasons (for the sake of Allah)

I know what you mean bro, it’s not easy to deal with a situation like that….but it’s great to know you wanna resolve it. May Allah make it easy.

1) Do you want to resolve it? Why?
– It’s not only a matter of ‘wanting’, but an obligation by Allah
(Hadith: impermissible to NOT speak to one’s brother (in Islam) beyond 3 days)

– Do it for selfish reasons (for your own benefit from Allah) “Whoever would like his lifespan to be extended and his provision to be increased, let him uphold the ties of kinship.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1961; Muslim, 2557)

2) Start small – just a hello/salam along with a smile, a compliment
ex. FaceBook is a good place, simply “liking” or commenting on his post – kinda sneaky

3) Persistence (being the bigger person) – you continue to “be good” and uphold your part of the relationship. Allah doesn’t require one to be buddy-buddy with every family member, just keep in touch with them, visit when sick, saying “yarhamukallah” if they sneeze, returning the salam etc.

Hope that is helpful akhi.

May Allah reward you for taking the first step and make it easy for you both.

ps. I have an older brother myself; of course there’s the occasional differences but with time people develop and change (hopefully for the better). Let the relationship develop and change too (for the better instead of worse)

pps. How amazing was Yusuf (AS) – youngest child at the time, thrown into a well (possible death), kept far away from his beloved father, rags to riches story, brothers in desperate need for help…Yusuf says, “No reproach…” – Allahuakbar.
[jazakallahukhair for asking this, gave me a deeper lesson too]

Great topic tho mA..I love the story of prophet Yusuf alayhi salaam there are has so many beautiful lessons you can take from it

A Question:

I know fogiving others is a character trait that should be sought after as a muslim..but what if you find it impossible to forgive someone who has hurt you and eventhough you’ve gone to a stage where you don’t think about it and it doesn’t affect your life, you find it very difficult to forgive that person does that mean Allah is displeased with you?

JazakAllahu khair and keep up the good job!

Number 2, the old man had every right and the other deserved the bashing (i know i know im missing the point of the video=/ )

BUT, YES =) inshAllah